I read a good book about dating and hits me so bad and my senseless mind and heart were rebuked. We can learn all things.

Marriable taking the desperate out of dating by Hayley DiMarco and Michael DiMarco

I. Desperate lies women tell themselves

  1. I’m waiting for Mr. Perfect
  2. It’s all about me.
  3. I’ll change him.
  4. It’s the other woman’s fault.
  5. He didn’t mean to.
  6. Sex will make him love me.
  7. We can talk for hours! He must be the one.
  8. It’s okay if I call him.
  9. He’s got another woman, so he must be hot.
  10. I just need to find a nice guy!

What lies did you believed here?

I’m into number ten, I remember those guys who are really great but they haven’t say a word like what’s the meaning of those actions- inviting you to restaurants and to watch movie, always around, want to help, want to fetch you, sending sweet messages , then they would tell you they are just nice and just appreciate you. The rationale! Then here comes someone who connected into your soul through writing and you already fell deeply- lumalambot ang tuhod sa poetry, tsss! Hays! HAHAHA. Very wrong!

I hope they aren’t reading these! Peace be with you! XD

My fault too, I participated. (my pokmaru brain cells were alive and active)

All you women crave romance, and that is not a bad thing. But when you start lying to yourselves and acting based on those lies, you destroy who you are. You rip apart your identity and purpose. In believing these lies, you essentially devalue yourselves and become less the kind of woman a man wants to fight for. You just need to be truthful with yourselves. Don’t follow your emotions. Take what men say at face value instead of trying to figure out what we really mean.


II. I’m Dating Jesus and other excuses why you’re not dating

This is a mantra being uttered by many a spiritual single waiting for God to drop their dream mate on their lap “in his time” and hoping to avoid hurtful dating consequences. ( this was me!)

III. How being just friends is a waste of time

The danger of male/female friendship is that it clouds the water we date in, and one of them starts to think that maybe, just maybe, the other likes them but they’ve just for a lot on their mind, or they’re just shy or they’re just getting over a bad relationship. You can be friendly without being friends.

save this for later! HAHAHAH

It’s a good book. Adulting is really hard yet fun. Don’t take life seriously at times, laughed at your mistakes, owned them, and learned from them.

Published by Merrel Ya

A lady who has been pondering her hope into Christ, inhaling His grace, and enjoying the beauty of life. Writing about life, asking God about “kuliglig sa kanyang dibdib.”

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